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If you put the name of Rudi Kennard in the search field on YouTube, you will find over 173 videos that are all Three Principles based.

12/2011

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What Are The Three Principles?

The Three Principles Explained

Mind has been defined as the universal intelligence or spiritual energy of all creation, both formless and in form.

Consciousness is the awareness of the process of creation, and of what we have created; it is what brings thinking to life through the senses and the body.

Thought is the capacity to create form from formless energy.

The Three Principles in Ordinary Terms
(by Judith Sedgeman, 2008)

When any thought is created within your mind, it is manifested as real through your senses at the moment it enters your mind. Whatever is on your mind is your world—at that moment. If a person’s mind is seething with thoughts of vengeance, he will experience a hostile, dangerous reality. If a person brings past misfortune to mind, she will have the experience of a person in difficulty. If a teenager entertains ideas of self-doubt and inadequacy, that young person will feel self-conscious and uncomfortable. The feeling comes from the senses that are informed by the thoughts that are created within the person’s mind moment-to-moment.

If a person thinks a green lizard is crawling across the floor, he or she will “see” a green lizard. The person’s senses would register the thought of a lizard. If a child awakens from a nightmare about a monster and continues to think of the monster, the child will remain terrified. If a grieving person’s mind fills up with gratitude at the funeral of a deceased friend, that person will suddenly experience warmth and love.

Every moment is new; every moment holds the potential for new creation. When a new thought comes to mind, the person’s life changes—at that moment. If a person thinking discouraging thoughts suddenly entertains a funny memory, that person will experience humor—at that moment. If a person ruminating about a disappointment in people suddenly thinks of the compassion of a neighbor, that person will feel warmth and good will—at that moment. A continual flow of new thoughts brings a continual flow of new sensory data.

With each change in thought, there is a corresponding change that the experienced reality of the thinker of that thought. When people see the one-to-one link between thought and experience, they gain perspective on life. Changes in their experience of reality no longer look as though they are precipitated at random by outside events or forces. Fear and hopelessness and other negative feelings look like thought-events, rather than horrible life circumstances. At the other extreme, euphoria and gratitude are thought-events, as well. It is as much within the realm of the thinker’s power to bring joy to mind as it is to bring despair to mind.

Seeing the emergence of experience from the process of thinking brings people peace of mind, no matter what they are thinking. It is as difficult to frighten yourself with your own thinking as it is to scare yourself by making faces in the mirror. No matter how you contort your expression, you know it is your face in the mirror and you know that you are creating the contortions and you know you can stop doing it, or change the expression. The only “force” in life becomes the power of creativity; inner peace no longer held hostage to outside forces or events.

 

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Weekly Twin Cities Groups

Health Realization

Current Minnesota Three Principles/Health Realization Support Groups

All groups are free & some accept donations / These groups have varying degrees of emphasis on the Three Principles and/or Health Realization (based on the Three Principles). Feel free to distribute copies.

Monday

  • 5:00 pm at: Conceptual Counseling 287 E. 6th Street – Suite 300, St. Paul, MN (651-221-0334)
  • 6:00 pm at: HR Sober Support Group Amethyst Counseling, 1405 Silver Lake Road, New Brighton, MN (651-633-4532)
  • 7:00 pm at Canvas Health 375 East Orleans St., Stillwater, MN 55082 Bruce (651-436-7777)

Tuesday

  • 10 – 11 am at: Conceptual Counseling 287 E. 6th Street – Suite 300, St. Paul, MN (651-221-0334)
  • 5 – 6 pm Women’s Meeting Conceptual Counseling 287 E. 6th Street – Suite 300, St. Paul, MN (651-221-0334)

Thursday

  • 5:00 pm at: Conceptual Counseling 287 E. 6th Street – Suite 300, St. Paul, MN (651-221-0334)
  • 6:00 pm at: 12 Step Alternative Group Praise Christian Center, 4100 Douglas Dr., Crystal, MN Sarah (612-868-7413) or Wiley (763-300-5060)
  • 7:00 pm at: All Saints Church, 8100 Belden Blvd., Cottage Grove, MN Harold (651-470-3337)

Saturday

  • 7:00 – 8:30 pm at: Recovery Church, 253 State Street, Steps Room, St. Paul, MNorth Ned (651-373-7828)
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Monthly Three Principles Meetup Group

Three PrinciplesMonthly Three Principles Meet-Up Discussion Group

Third Thursday of Every Month Evening / 7 – 9 pm

 

Metro State University Learning Center
Room 301
645 7th Street E.
St. Paul, MN 55106 USA

 

 

o Info at http://www.meetup.com/Three-Principles-Meetup/

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Your To Do List Has Unnecessary Tasks On It!

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How to Identify Tasks From Your To Do List That Can be Eliminated

My wife’s mother Peg, passed away recently. I watched my wife and her family wrap up the personal affairs of this dear woman. The family ended up disposing of all but a handful of documents from Peg’s desk, which was overflowing with paper. I’m sure that just a few weeks before Peg would have objected vigorously at the suggestion that much of that paper was unnecessary. I was struck by how little her children kept and everything else was shredded. It was a powerful reminder to me of how I most likely exaggerate the importance of much of my activities in life.“Don’t sweat the small stuff and its corollary, It’s all . . . small stuff.”

Guess what? That’s what your life may look like to someone else who finds it necessary to step into your shoes. Each of us perform tasks that can be eliminated without any effect whatever to the balance in our lives. The enemy of peace and serenity is our ego. Our ego fears death just like we do, even more so. There is no need for an ego in a mind at peace. Therefore, ego is going to do all it can to convince you of its importance. The way it does this is with fear, worry, chaos and mental noise.

It is to the ego’s advantage to inflate the importance of tasks. Many of the tasks on your mind do not need to be done at all and can be left to die of their own lack of energy. They are just exaggerations of your ego. But ego will scream and holler like a stuck pig when you attempt to abandon those tasks. It uses self talk very effectively to convince you that there will be dire consequences.

It is all lies . . . you can take back control of you life from your ego. The way to do that is to begin to identify those tasks that can be completely eliminated from your mental radar. Start with small very low risk tasks and work your way up to bigger and bigger tasks, soon you will be finding all kinds of time and peace of mind that you never knew existed.

You can reduce your burdens at work or at home by eliminating activities that no longer contribute to your job or personal well being. They might have value to someone else but they are not useful to you. Your time is valuable and you must be the master of how spend your time. Let’s look at some activities that you can eliminate.

Gather together any existing planners, to-do lists, calendars or notes that you may have from the past seven days. (If you don’t have any, try to reconstruct them from memory). Now go back through them and begin looking at each activity, asking yourself the following question, “If I had not engaged in this activity, what would have been the effect upon my life balance?” If you’re honest, you’re going to come across some that the answer is, “nothing at all.” Make a list of all of the tasks, activities, and duties, which you have participated in, that you have answered “nothing.”

How many did you come up with? If your list is less than 10, you’re kidding yourself! You’re taking yourself and your responsibilities too seriously; nobody is that important. Remember, it’s all . . . small stuff.

Got a question, war story or comment about this topic? “Click on the leave Your Comments” link at the very bottom of this article. Some of my best ideas for future articles come from reading reader comments. I’d love to hear from you!

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Worrying About My Worries . . .

Say What?

My sleep last night was very fitful, no doubt caused by the massive gastric distress that was placed upon my body at yesterday’s Thanksgiving dinner. I found myself tossing and turning and much of my sleep was semi consciousness, bouncing around various levels of consciousness.

Some of it was dreaming, some of it was thinking. At one point I found myself worrying about some task that needed to be taken care of today, but I obviously was not very worried about the task as I drifted into sleep without finishing my worries. style=”PADDING-RIGHT: 8px; PADDING-LEFT: 8px; FONT-WEIGHT: normal; FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FLOAT: right; PADDING-BOTTOM: 5px; MARGIN: 20px; WIDTH: 250px; LINE-HEIGHT: normal; PADDING-TOP: 5px; FONT-STYLE: normal; TEXT-ALIGN: right; FONT-VARIANT: normal”>”We are so much more
than our thoughts”

This morning I got up and went through my usual morning routine of finding the shortest distance between the bed and ingesting caffeine. As I was standing over the coffee pot waiting for it to complete it’s all important task, my mind wandered to the incomplete worrying that had occurred during the middle of the night. I could not remember what it was I was supposed to be worried about.

I then began to worry about the fact that I couldn’t remember what it was I was supposed to be worrying about. I actually began to get a bit put out, by the fact that I couldn’t remember. I began to admonish myself over the fact that I did not pay attention to my worries in the middle of the night and thinking that if I would have been a responsible human I would have written it down so I wouldn’t forget.

My thoughts were really setting me up for a pretty miserable day. Thankfully as the caffeine kicked in at the same time a passage from my morning inspirational reading caught the attention of my inner being adult, and I realized what an absurd thought process I had just allowed myself to get sucked into. I had been worrying about my worries! Do you believe it?

I wondered how many times I have done this in the past. The realization that all that stands between me and happiness is my own thoughts, has come way to late in life. As humans we need to find a way to get rid of this kind of thinking. We are so much more than our thoughts.

Start questioning your thoughts, you won’t regret it.

Got a question, war story or comment about this topic? “Click on the leave Your Comments” link at the very bottom of this article. Some of my best ideas for future articles come from reading reader comments. I’d love to hear from you!

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Multitasking is Egoic Mischief Nonsense

Multitasking . . . screwing several things up, all in one sitting

A student in my class Letting go of Detrimental Thinking recently posted an interesting question regarding the wisdom of multitasking . . . I thought you all might like to see my reply.

Quite frankly I believe multi-tasking is grossly overated and in fact can add quite a bit of stress and loss of productivity. The human mind performs at its peak when it is fully engaged and focused on a single task. Mental clutter detracts from focus.

Multitasking is the ego’s shame response about focus and enjoying the satisfaction of doing a great job at the task at hand. It’ll try to convince you that you must do more and more to be worthy of peace of mind. The ego always wants more of everything.

It rationalizes that unless we are constantly driving ourselves to do more, we are somehow inadequate. Complete and utter nonsense. As with all of the self-talk the ego shares with us each day.

Quit mentally working on this afternoons tasks this morning. It will drive you crazy. Let go of all of those hobgoblins of the tasks that are in the future. Learn the joy that comes from doing that which is in front of you right now very well, with lots of pride.

Do not worry about what comes next, nor all of the other things on the to do list. Let them take care of themselves or starve themselves into oblivion.

Your day will unfold without all of the frantic angry moods we have a tendency to work ourselves into when we multitask.

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I’m not alone in this thinking check out this article: Multitasking is Inefficient, Studies Show and this one Multitasking Madness

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Rethinking, Planning and Goal Setting

Ego’s Arrogance Believes it Can Predict the Future

Heresy? My ego screamed at me . . . All my life the self help gurus have been harping at me, saying I would be a broken, miserable lout if I didn’t have written goals in detail, engraved in stone. Every New Year, I go through the same routine. Feeling guilt about revising my goals. Sitting down in painful agony trying to determine what it is that I should be doing to please the self-help gods.

But this year was different. I swore off all goal setting and am downsizing all of my planning. Yes, even the morning drudgery I’ve paid homage to for my entire life. And you know what . . . I’m still here, alive and well. I’m not broke, divorced or otherwise impaired by this so-called heresy.

Goal setting: it doesn’t make any sense intellectually at all, there, I said it. Have me arrested, if you must.

Last fall, I read a passage in a book that really set me thinking about why planning and goal setting rarely worked for me and brought me so much anguish and struggle:

“How can the ego-self possibly judge rightly? It would have to have infinite knowledge and awareness encompassing the past, present, and future. It would be required to know in advance all the effects of its judgment on everyone and everything in and with them in every possible way. It would need to be fully aware of our most inner intent at all times and in all circumstances.”
Take me to the Truth, by Nouk Sanchez.

The arrogance of the ego is almost astounding, when you think about it. Planning and goal setting are attempts to predict the future, or to mold and control all of the events in the entire cosmos into exact alignment to its wishes. I’m accepting the utter futility of trying to control the future. Happiness isn’t the art of building a trouble-free life; it’s the art of responding well when trouble strikes. True power comes from management, not control, accepting what is and realizing you can’t control everybody and everything in a calm manner, is the ultimate plan.

Planning sets you up for complete failure. If something minor goes wrong at the beginning of the project, the setback can send one into a complete tail spin, often resulting in giving up and “I’m just a loser,” self talk. Or at the very least, results in some suffering and procrastination.

I’m beginning to trust what is, and allow my inner self to direct what’s next. After all, the ego’s track record has been pretty dismal, causing lots of suffering and unhappiness. I’ve decided that I deserve better than that and I’m doing something about it.

Yes, Yes, I know you must do some planning. A trip that involves some reservations, for example. But, I try to keep any planning restricted to only those things on which I must take immediate action. I sit down and do the necessary planning, with a pencil and paper. I have quit ruminating and mentally trying to rehearse every little detail. I recognize it for what it is, my ego creating chaos in my mind to justify its existence.

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The Role the Ego Has Played in Human Evolution

So why do I have to put up with this incessant chatter?

“Who am I?” is a fundamental question that most of us ask ourselves. “Where do I fit with the rest of the world? and “Where am I going with my life?” are other questions we pounder. The concept of self, also called neuroscience and neuropsychology.

Today’s psychologists ascribe three core capacities to the human ego:

  • Internal representation of a person’s past and present experiences and future goals, commonly called memory.
  • An executive function that initiates thinking, behavior and feelings.
  • Reflexive potential that is the “working self”. Reflexive potential involves the constant interplay between internal representation (memory) and executive function. Reflexive function determines how we pursue our goals, choose our daily actions and decide what to pay attention to.

Have humans always been so complex in the concept of self and social interactions? The fossil evidence from 200,000 to 300,000 years ago indicates that our ancient ancestor Homo sapiens first appeared in evolutionary fashion from prior ape-like creatures in Africa. Homo sapiens is unique in having a large brain in proportion to body size which fostered the development of abstract thinking and complex social interaction.

These traits are illustrated by the complex and refined stone tools that have been unearthed by archaeologists and the remaining evidence of social interaction in ancient times. Homo sapiens also had the ambition to wander and eventually replace the Neanderthals in Europe. DNA evidence proclaims that all humans on earth today are Homo sapiens.

While we don’t really know when in the evolutionary process that the ego developed, evidence of burial customs, personal jewelry and artwork from 60,000 to 30,000 years ago indicate the concept and importance of individuals; hence the possible existence of ego. But based on the commonly accepted idea of evolution, let’s see why the development of ego was an important and selected trait for human beings as we evolved over tens of thousands of years into who we are today.

Environmental Reasons for Evolutionary Ego

We already know that humans have a larger brain in proportion to body size than other animals. One thought is that the larger brain developed in relation to foraging for food. Grass-eating animals don’t need to make much in the way of feeding choices but fruit-eating animals like monkeys need more brain capacity, for example, to locate fruits and remember when each type of fruit is in season. Fruit-eating animals are known to have larger brains.

But the primates that eat fruit and meat (are omnivorous) have the largest brains in relation to body size because greater processing capacity is required for hunting and acquiring meat. Early humans didn’t hunt for large prey alone but engaged in social interaction in the process of hunting. Hunting by its very nature shows the capacity to comprehend and plan for future events.

Hunting also required the development of specialized tools like spears which requires remembering and symbolic reasoning abilities as well as coordinated skills. Self-satisfaction emerges after successful foraging for fruit and hunting for meat. The emotional side of humans potentially developed as self-satisfaction became happiness at the attainment of food and mate attraction goals through motivated actions.

In accord with the prevalent theories of evolution, the development of the ego conferred advantages to human beings with regard to food acquisition and adapting to varied environments like grasslands versus forests or warm versus cold climates. Internal feelings of self developed as a response to demands imposed by the environment.

Social Reasons for Evolutionary Ego

The size of the brain of a primate species is also related to the size of the group. It’s just more complicated to interact with more individuals every day so greater brain capacity is required. Humans have very complicated social arrangements that range from the mundane, like how to set the table and use a fork, to highly significant protocols between heads of state. While rams might simply butt heads to achieve dominance, the human ego can lay intricate plots with future planning to achieve a goal of power and dominance.

The evolutionary development of ego conferred advantages on the individual in social situations as tribal living became the norm. Animals that live in groups inherently develop a pecking order and self-awareness in terms of ego is necessary to assess your place within the social order of your fellow humans.

With the need for group interaction and cooperation, the evolution of humans favored those with a strong sense of self for social reasons. The need for a sense of self was further reinforced when language developed so a person could compare their self-image with what others expressed about them. Concepts of esteem, guilt or embarrassment easily find their way into the discussion and reinforce the continued evolutionary pressures placed upon the development of the ego.

The development of ego and evolution of the human species are permanently joined together. Ancient evolutionary forces caused Homo sapiens to evolve as a separate species from the other apes. The larger brain facilitated enhanced memory and the development of specialized skills in relation to gathering of food and making us attractive to members of the opposite sex. The ability to plan for future food needs then allowed humans to live in larger groups which in turn placed additional evolutionary pressure upon the emerging ego. The social human then required a self-image in order to interact properly within the group and eventually developed into the higher state of individual goals and feelings.

Have we outlived ego’s usefulness?

There exists a growing group of theorists and social anthropologists who think that humans have outgrown the need for the ego. We have long ago surpassed our basic survival needs of food and shelter. The ego’s fear based fight or flight instincts could very likely be the basis for much of the aggression, violence which have plagued our species. Egocentric behavior keeps us focused on the self. It is hard to see the world from someone else’s shoes when we are focused on the self. Ego keeps us separated from each other and encourages us to be always in an attack, revenge and defend mentality.

If Homo sapiens are capable of transcending the ego, could universal love and forgiveness provide the impetus for us to lay down our arms once and for all?

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Why I do not trust my emotions

Why I need to be on guard whenever an emotion surfaces

I have recently discovered that, in certain situations, my emotions have a tendency to distort my perception of reality.

Let’s look at an example of the simple emotion of “wanting or desire”. Last night, I took the joy of my life out to dinner to our favorite steak house. Alas, they happened to have a new wine list. One of the featured wines on the list was a very expensive bottle from a well known French vineyard. The bottle was twice the cost of a very respectable bottle of California Cabernet.

My wife cautioned me against such a lavish expenditure, but overcome by “desire”, I would hear none of it. The bottle came and it was a disapointment, not a bad bottle mind you, but a disapointment none the less. This morning, upon reflection, I’m suffering from guilt and regret. This, of course, compounds the disapointment all the more.

What happened was that the emotion of “desire” overshadowed the balance between the realities of the postitive and the negative. The positive being a great bottle of wine, and the negatives being my depeleted bank account and pissed off wife. This emotion allowed me only to see the decision as only 100% attractive. The emotion of desire only allows us to percieve the positive and hides the negatives from our good judgement.

I watched a good friend destroy his life with a blonde, half his age, over exactly the same emotion.

A similar example happen recently with a negative emotion, “repulsion”. While shopping for a car recently, we came across a great bargain. It was a vehicle that fit what we were looking for and was priced $2,000 below the going rate for that model car. The problem was the color . . . it was a color that I found repulsive. Despite my wife’s urging, I could not bring myself to ignore the replusion and see the positive side of this emotional confrontation. Again, I was looking at a distorted picture of reality.

We left the car dealership without the car. Throughout the next 24 hours, the joy of my life successfully convinced me to look at the positives of the deal. Well, to make a long story short, the next day we went back to the dealership to make the deal and you guessed it . . . the car had been sold. We ended up buying the exact same car in a different color for $2,335 more than we needed to pay. Again, the result was a depleted bank account and a pissed off wife.

The lessons learned:

  1. Listen to the joy of my life more often.
  2. Unexamined emotions whether they be positive or negative can impair my judgement and obscure reality.
  3.  Always question all thoughts and emotions, never take them for a true reflection of reality.
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